Have you ever heard the song “Cat’s in the Cradle”?
I grew up listening to the good ol’ blue grass singers like Ricky Skaggs and this song occasionally pops into my head, southern twang and all.
It’s actually a very sad song about a father and son. The father was too busy to spend time with his little boy and before he knew it his little boy had grown up into a man. Now the son is too busy with his own job and family to find time for his dad. You can almost hear the heart break of the father and the regret.
Dad’s often do work outside the home and they work HARD to provide the best for their family. It is tough for them to carve out time to interact with their children. One would think though, that as a stay-at-home mom it would be easy and natural to spend time one on one with my kids.
Sadly, that is not always true.
I often find myself guilty of being WITH my kids but not really spending time interacting with them on their level.
Little ones NEED so many things that are physical that it is easy to forget that they have emotional and spiritual needs just as I do.
Often I feel like I am doing OK if my girls are fed, clean, rested. They needs so much more though! They need love, care, acceptance, affirmation, friendship, a listening ear, and more!
Cultivating a relationship with children takes time, initiative and commitment.
Over this past summer I have been convicted of just trying to keep my girls entertained so that I can do what I want to do or feel like I “NEED” to do and missing precious opportunities to invest in their lives.
I have found myself bemoaning in my heart that I am “missing out” on something because my kids need a nap or that they take so much attention that I won’t be able to enjoy myself.
My selfishness glared me in the face and I saw how it is and will affect my children and the relationship I will have with them.
I am SO very grateful that God helped me realize this while my kiddos are still young!
I must take advantage of this precious time that I have my children’s undivided attention and love. Take advantage of the, oh so many, chances I have to get down at their eye level and interact with them there. Take the time to STOP and listen to what they are saying to me.
Their little conversation may seem so pointless and unimportant but, to them, it is important stuff! If I relay to them that what they are saying is not important, they won’t come to me with the truly important things later in life.
God is expanding thankfulness in my heart for girls!
God is giving me JOY in getting down to a one and three year old level to see what my little girls see!
God is always teaching us and molding us and these are the lessons He has been teaching me these past months.
These little ones are the beautiful GIFTS God has lavished on me!
These little girls are the MINISTRY God has entrusted to me!
These children of mine are the people that one day I will wish and long for more time spent with them, the ones I will want to hang out with the most!
Start NOW, momma!
It will be with it!
It IS worth it!